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How To Create The Ideal Life and Business Using Proactive Love
"I scream, you scream, we all scream for ice cream." Pick a flavor, any flavor; we love them all. I go nuts in a 31 Flavors shop, and speaking of nuts, I like all the toppings too. In the same way that ice cream is the key ingredient to every person's ideal flavor, love is the key factor to every person's ideal life. Love delivers joy in every way it's used. Think about it. Joy and happiness come to us when we give love, when we receive love, and when we just plain old love ourselves. Yes, I believe love is present in every ideal life. That might be why I found Doug Carter's book "Clients Forever" so captivating. He approaches selling as if 'Love' were the key ingredient to having the ideal business. In fact, he starts off his first chapter with "What If All Your Clients Loved You?" Carter makes a brilliant case for describing the ideal business as one in which 100% of your clients love you and help you to build your business. You might be thinking, but there are many different kinds of love, loving ice cream and loving a client can't be the same." Yes, you're right, the kind of love that makes up ideal relationships is 'Proactive Love.' This type of love increases with trust and the level of trust is determined by how much you trust yourself. Therefore, you control the To illustrate this I need to switch my metaphor from ice cream to suspension bridges. This is basic engineering so don't panic. Here are three basic 'Trust Bridge Builders' (TBBs). ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ TBB 1 - Anchor Your Trust Deep Into Your Soul ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The secret to the strength of a suspension bridge, and why they are the longest bridges in the world, is that the huge support cables are anchored very deep on both sides of the chasm and they pull with equal force. The love you As the trust you have in yourself goes deeper, you will be able to support a greater level of love for other people. Therefore, you can proactively increase your ability to trust others through self-awareness and learning how to trust yourself. Here's an exercise to begin a deeper level of trust. Write down the things you don't want in your life. Include your fears, worries, stressors, negative feelings, insecurities, bad habits, etc. By writing them down, you are giving them a place to be outside of your mind, so you can openly deal with them. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ TBB 2 - Lift Up Love By Discovering Your Deepest Desires ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ The massive support towers that hold up the cables on a suspension bridge have to stand on solid bedrock, which is usually far below the muddy bottom of the channel. The muddy bottom is our wants, wishes, and shallow desires, while the deep, solid bedrock represent our core desires, the ones that stay the same no matter how much water goes under our bridge. Your core desires provide your true motivation and you will be unstable until they are found. Once discovered, there are no limits to how high or how far you can go. Here's an exercise to drill down to your core desires. Write down a list of at least ten things that you value in life. Pair them up in a double elimination tournament fashion. With each pair you say, "I can have them all, but if I had to choose between the two I would pick..." The chosen one moves up. When completed, you will have your three or four deepest desires in life and from these you will be able to find the pattern that reveals your strengths, motivators, and major purpose in life. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ TBB 3 - Support Your True Pathway With Only True Beliefs ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Tension wires hanging down from the main cable support the roadway. These tension wires are your beliefs; you have hundreds and perhaps thousands of them. Even if you don't pay attention to them, they still control your entire life. Problems arise when you have beliefs that aren't true for you, because they don't fit and can't be connected properly! This causes your behavior to be weak and inconsistent with the real you. Your job is to discover what your false beliefs are and replace them with true beliefs, the ones that are right for you. Use this exercise to find and replace your false beliefs and clarify and tighten your true ones. Answer the question "What should a person with my strengths and purpose in life do?" And then switch it with "what you shouldn't do?" Consider each area that is important to you. Then do the same with must, mustn't, can, can't, will, and won't. To sum it up, you can have an ideal life and business if your relationships are built with Proactive Love. This kind of love is like a suspension bridge, which requires a trust that begins deep in your soul, and love that is lifted Randy Gilbert is the best-selling author of "Success Bound: Breaking Free of Mediocrity" Co-host of "The Inside Success Show" the most talked-about Internet talk show Creator of "Proactive Success: The True Pathway to Authentic Abundance" Copyright 2003 Randy Gilbert. All rights reserved. Feel free to pass the above in its entirety to anyone you wish.
strength of your relationships because you can choose to increase the level of trust that you have in yourself.
share is the big cable and the anchor is the trust.
high by supports standing on core desires, and lots of true beliefs connected to your true pathway. Build for yourself a Trust Bridge, and happiness, success, and abundance will be yours.
''America The Great ... Pretender'' - How To Have Proactive Authenticity
By Randy Gilbert (c)2003
Doesn't that title shock you? It did me when I first heard it. This problem of national importance came to me while I was meditating and praying and asking, "How can I be of greater service to the world?" Then it struck me, "too many Americans are pretending to be successful and something must be done."
World Peace - One Person at a time
By Randy Gilbert (c)2002
If you want peace in the world, then be proactive, for it is only by proactively creating peace in our individual lives that we will create lasting peace in the world.
In his little but powerful book, "As A Man Thinketh," James Allen penned these words, "To live continually in thoughts of ill-will, cynicism, suspicion, and envy, is to be confined in a self-made prison hole. But, to think well of all, to be cheerful with all, to patiently learn to find the good in all - such unselfish thoughts are the very portals of heaven; and to dwell day by day in thoughts of peace toward every creature will bring abounding peace to their possessor."
Proactive Cooperation: "When YOU Is Not Enough"
By Randy Gilbert (c)2002
Some people call me a "do-it-yourselfer." I home-schooled my kids, designed and built my own home, wrote and published my own book, produced and hosted my own radio show, and so on. My "do-it-yourself" attitude comes from my strong desire to learn as much as I can. I love life and want to experience it to the fullest.
Proactive Change: "To Change Or Not To Change ... "
By Randy Gilbert (c)2002
After spending weeks developing a good habit, such as eating healthier, why do we want to change back to your old habits? Yet we do!? After years of smoking and knowing cancer or emphysema are coming, we want to quit this heartache habit? Yet we don't!?? And the list goes on. One of the keys to success is, "knowing what to change and what not to change."
